We want to say THANK YOU to everyone out there helping us spread love and kindness through acts of service!
Spring is coming, and no matter where you are, your family can make a difference in your community. Fire up your calendar—we have 14 ways to volunteer with your kids and do some good! Be sure to create an account with Project Giving Kids or download our iPhone app so that you can easily favorite and keep track of activities.
Some of these you can do anywhere in the US, and we also have great on-site volunteer opportunities for kids, teens, and families in the San Francisco Bay Area, Los Angeles, and Boston.
My 10-year old daughter Chloe, along with her mighty Raptors teammates, recently played their hearts out in a tough soccer tournament. Over the course of the weekend, they played six games, fighting until the very end.
It came down to a tied match, ending in a series of penalty kicks. Each team had five kickers with five chances to score, each team alternating a turn against the opposing team’s goalie. The team with the most goals would win.
First up was our kicker versus their goalie. Then their kicker against our goalie, and on it went. In the fifth round, our team nailed it! Then we all held tight while the other team stepped up to take a fifth kick.
I have to say, it was so exciting! Parents from both teams nervously cheered on the kickers for their children’s teams. The air was electric with anticipation. Other soccer teams who had been playing in the tournament nearby even came over to watch and cheer from the sidelines.
The opposing team kicked, and our goalie dove to catch it. The ball popped out of her little hands into the air. But before it had a chance to land on the ground, she dove for it, and caught it! Our team erupted into cheers. We had won!
Amid our celebration, the opposing goalie burst into tears. I was standing next to her parents on the sidelines and congratulated them on their daughter’s great effort, offering her mom a hug.
What I saw next was incredibly touching. The girls from our team, including my daughter Chloe, gathered around the goalie from the other team, and gave her hugs and consolation. They also offered hugs to everyone on the other team.
When I finally found Chloe, I gave her a big hug and high five. Proud mommy moment! But as she hugged me, she reminded me to check myself. “Mom, she’s really upset! Let’s get off the field and celebrate later.”
I learned so much from her that day. Our kids showed us that with all their hard work and dedication to their sport, they had learned a lesson much bigger than how to score a goal, and gave us a lesson in empathy, too.
This wasn’t an accident. The decision to console the other players was entirely the girls’ idea, but it helps that Chloe’s coaches have created what researcher Mary F. Fry calls a “caring climate.” It’s focused not on winning, but on empathy and love of the game. Chloe and her teammates are valued and respected in a safe and supportive environment, one that has consideration for others. Young athletes in these environments report “greater empathy for others, more engagement in prosocial behaviors, better emotional regulation, more hope and happiness, and less depression and sadness than those in less caring climates.”
No one loves the holidays more than children. How often I’ve wished I could go back to that age when my biggest challenge was being patient enough to wait for December 25, when there was truly something magical about this season.
But even though I’m not five years old anymore, spend enough time with someone who is, and you’ll start to pick up on their spirit. The thing is, kids don’t care about the shopping that needs to be done, the cookies that must be baked, or the million-and-one things to do before the big day. They just care that it’s Christmastime.
Children can teach you a lot throughout the year, too. And so, this month, I’ve been reflecting on what PGK has accomplished in 2018 and how grateful I’ve been to be a part of it. And I’ve been inspired by the generosity and caring shown by all the PGK kids across the country.
The first Create the Change Day LA was a great success – along with days in San Francisco and Boston. The refreshed PGK site was launched, with a beautiful new interface and updated functionality. And kids from coast to coast shared their time, talents and passion as they took part in service projects ranging from making cat toys for animal shelters to collecting socks for the homeless.
My favorite take-away from all of this, though, was a simple quote from a 9-year-old participant at the LA event: “My favorite part about Create the Change Day was thinking about what I’m doing to help other people.”
We just wrapped up a successful Create the Change Day season spanning all three of our cities – Boston, LA and the Bay Area. As a small nonprofit, three major events in five weeks in three different cities was no small task. Now that the busyness of it all is in the rear view mirror, we are able to sit back, enjoy and reflect on all the good that came from those days…and there was a lot of good! (We’ve got LOTS of ways to create more good below too, so keep reading!)
Perhaps as much as anything, we are struck by how easy it was to create community in those moments. Everyone who came did so with a desire for nothing more than to make a difference. People gave up their Sunday afternoons in service to others – no football, no Fortnite, no other distractions. In large part, they were events full of people who had never rubbed elbows before, but that didn’t matter. They were there for the same reason, and there was an energy in each of those spaces much bigger than the individuals in it. The sum was definitely greater than the parts. But that’s what happens when we build community. We become something greater than our individual parts.
As we try to impart every day, creating community does not require running for public office or leading a community-based organization (although those things are great). It is the choice to turn to one’s neighbor with a friendly smile, to pick up trash along your path when you see it, to help a friend struggling at school, to see a neighbor in need and respond with compassion.
As a part of this year’s Create The Change Days, we asked our nonprofit partners to give us other ways youth and families could assist them in the weeks ahead. Below are PDF’s from each region which should keep anyone who is interested busy for a while. And if you aren’t from one of our regions, you will still find lots of great ideas you can take into your own community too. So will you help us keep it going? It’s the perfect time of year to look outside ourselves and let the season of hope and giving inspire us all.